Sunday, April 29, 2012

Adventures of Quarry Girl


The sound of the gravel as it was crunching under my tires, vibrating everything inside my Yaris, reminding me that it was not meant for off-roading. A British woman was telling me that I was approaching my destination, which, according to her was in 300 yards. She had been accompanying me for the hour long drive to a place I had never been, at a time when I was more accustomed to being asleep than awake, providing me with turn-by-turn directions. What did we ever do before onboard navigation systems? I started to question her sanity as she was sending me off road and telling me, “You have reached your destination,” when in fact, I did not see the address of my intended destination. Instead, all I saw was a well-worn gravel road, which was more mud than rock; with deep puddles that I was sure would swallow up my car whole. I inched along until I saw a sign that indicated a quarry was just 1/8th of a mile down the bumpy road.


I knew that I was working at a quarry, doing what, I wasn't quite sure. For those who are not familiar, a quarry is basically a site where they have done blasting, which results in large rocks, and upon processing, is turned into smaller and smaller rocks. As I continued down the road, I was quickly greeted by a blue heeler and a lady that looked right out of Deliverance. Unsure if I was at the right place or about to be shot on sight, I rolled down my window and smiled. It appeared that I was at the right spot and this is where I would be training for the week.


To call it rustic would be a stretch. Sure there was electricity and a shack (roughly 10’ x 10’), but the only running water was the creek (or crik as pronounced by the employees), meaning that the only facilities on site consisted of an outhouse. I also learned on my drive that there was also no cell phone reception. All that I kept thinking was how wonderful of a set up this would be for a serial killer…an isolated location, complete with sounds of noisy machinery, no cell phone reception to call for help and nobody to hear you scream. And this would be where I would be working for the next couple of days, with who knows how many people or if I would get along with them at all. My bank balance once again flashed in my mind, reminding me that I needed this job, regardless of where, what or who I would be working with in this isolated location. Heck, I lived 80 miles north of Nome, AK for a year…this should be a piece of cake.


The first couple of days consisted of an hour’s drive to the location, sitting around waiting for a truck to come on the radio stating that they were on their way and getting a hang of the scale and learning how to print receipts. The hardest thing was trying to resist killing the lady that was training me on the equipment. Training in and of itself usually sucks, but being confined in the shack with someone with whom I really didn’t have anything in common with and I found to be loud, boisterous and annoying…that made the homicidal tendencies a bit more difficult to keep under wraps. Add to this her habit of telling me dirty jokes, chewing apples like a horse and touching my food…and my need to have a fairly sizable space bubble, and you can start to understand how difficult it was to not kill her.


At least the scenery was nice.


Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Emotional and Financial Stability? We Shall See.


Having started a new job this week, I again experienced the butterflies of anxiety swarming inside my body. While this position may just be temporary (supposed to last about 30 days), it does provide some stress relief in the fact that a paycheck is associated with my time spent at their location. This is good, as being unemployed, with no source of income other than my disability from the military…times were quite troublesome. Not just the usual worry about making rent and paying the bills (like any self-respecting and responsible adult) but I am not afraid to admit, it started messing with my head.

Some may know of the existence of certain inner demons which I fight on a regular basis, and while I won’t bombard you with the details, they often lead me to some dark corners inside my mind. The feeling of being a failure, not being a contributing member of society and the general feeling of not having a purpose encompassed me more so than they usually have in the past. Add to that the fact that I was rejected on a regular basis, for positions that included janitor, call center representative, bakery register clerk, adolescent drug treatment aide, merchandiser, night auditor for a hotel, customer care assistant at a home improvement store (basically a grunt that helps to load your purchases into your vehicle) and a gas station attendant. I was good enough to rescue people, inspect foreign cargo ships, retrieve bodies, perform the duties as an underway mechanic, emergency dispatch and even work with an AUSDA on an oil dumping case that ended up being the largest settlement at the time, but I wasn’t good enough to pump gas? That took a toll on my psyche.

While unemployed (which I still am, but not as much) I set out to apply to at least 5 jobs per day, found from various sources. When that wasn’t netting results, I then started applying like a mad lady to as many positions I could find, not paying any attention to if I would enjoy them at all, as they would just be a way to prevent myself (and my dogs) from becoming homeless. That’s when I ran across one on the employment website for a temporary scale clerk at a quarry. I figured what the heck…the only requirements were: at least 18 years of age and legible handwriting, along with organizational skills. Well, I am quite a bit over the desired age, my handwriting is decent and thanks to the military, I am pretty organized (okay, maybe boarding a little on anal), so away my resume went through the complex web of the internet. A couple hours later, I received an email from the company. I was expecting another rejection, as that seemed to be par for the course. To my surprise, it was a request to have me fill out one of their applications online. It may not have been an offer, but it wasn’t a rejection, so I opened their Word document (not very user friendly if you are filling out a form online), completed the necessary information and sent it back on through, not really expecting much to happen. A couple days later, my phone rang and they were wondering if I was still interested in the position, as it was an hour or so away from where I live. My meager bank balance flashed through my mind, and I jumped at the opportunity.

The following week, I was in their office (which was a two hour drive away) and filling out some paperwork and reading training manuals, still unsure if this was a screening process or if I indeed had the job. Four hours later, tax forms completed, I had the position. I never really even had an interview for this position, not sure of the hours (it’s full-time, but I don’t know start nor stop times) and not even sure of the pay (the ad included a small range of hourly pay), but it’s a source of income and a way to relieve a little bit of stress, albeit temporarily.

Sunday, April 22, 2012

The Complexities of Communication


The human language, regardless of the dialect, is one of the most powerful, yet widely varied concepts that we have yet to fully understand. We can study how words are formed, tracing from a certain part of the brain during an fMRI scan, noting where the lights are the brightest. We can see the vocal cords vibrate by sending a camera down the trachea, each part moving at a different rate depending on the pitch. Several dictionaries have tried to set forth a definition for words, yet it seems that one word can have many different meanings and interpretations.


Processing words can often become confusing, as one person may say a word and it has no effect on you, whereas another person can say the same thing and it could mean something completely different. How can a string of letters cause pain, whereas the same letters in a different order can lead to glee? Even tone and inflection can change the interpretation…so, how are we as a society supposed to comprehend the immense responsibility associated with deciphering words?


We think, communicate and learn by using words. Sure, you may see a fluffy bunny in your head, but you also hear the word, “bunny,” whilst seeing the image. Well, unless you are one of the rare individuals with synesthesia, which is a condition in the brain that can best be described as tasting colors and words having feelings and odors. This is quite rare, but fascinating.


There are some words that I wish didn’t exist, as they bring me no pleasure. This can be due to either the sound, meaning, personal context or even the look of the word. These include:
  • Prolly
  • Swag
  • Got
  • Cray cray
  • Nom nom
  • Hella
  • Yolo
  • Cotton balls
  • Cali
Some of these are slang words, for which I have no interest in finding out what they mean. What happened to using actual words? Have we become so lazy that we can’t spell out PROBABLY or CALIFORNIA? I do not care for NOM NOM mainly since I can’t stand the sound of people eating…why would I want to read the sound they make? And well, just the word cotton balls sends chills across my body, as I am quite texturally sensitive to them…especially on my fingernails. Drives me mad! Those and wooden popsicle sticks…just the thought of them touching my teeth makes me cringe.

Now, just like I have some unpleasant words, I too have some that make me simply swoon and tingle in all the right places. Some may not be traditionally sensual, but the sound of them or the meaning brings me pleasure. These include:
  • Plethora
  • Kerfuffle
  • Swell
  • Undulation
  • Debauchery
  • Dolt
  • Thwarted
  • Extrapolate
  • Conundrum
  • Nincompoop
  • Necrophilia
Okay, maybe that last one isn't too sensual, but it does sound quite lovely, especially considering what it means. My point is, and yes, I do have one…words count. Many people let words fall out of their mouths, lacking meaning and echoing like a vast canyon. Those are words I do not wish to enter my brain, as they are filler. Words can tell you a lot about a person. They can work as an insight to their thinking process and may even reveal their desires without them being conscious of such. Perhaps this is why I dread small talk so much, as those words seem to be forced, rather than a free-flow of thoughts and ideas.


Monday, April 16, 2012

I Wouldn't be a Good Amish Person


Suddenly, I feel completely disconnected and alone. Something feels dead. Well, at least I don’t smell anything dead, so that’s a plus I suppose. Nothing is sizzling, there are no sparks. There is also a light that is lacking…the DSL and Internet light on the modem. Unplugging, resetting, powering down and a few curse words later, I swallowed my pride for being able to fix most things and pulled out that 1-800 number that would connect me to who-knows-where.

After being stuck in voice prompt hell (seriously, I speak quite clearly and the mechanical voice still greeted me with an, “I’m sorry, I did not catch that.” How do people with thick accents use the voice prompt? Oh, but I digress.) for what seemed like eons, I was able to speak with a person…a REAL LIVE PERSON! After she gave me the equivalent of verbal water boarding, verifying my pertinent (and not so pertinent) information, she walked me through the same steps I had done prior to calling. While I understand that not everyone is familiar with the process of troubleshooting, sometimes it irks me to think that there are people out there who don’t know to CHECK TO MAKE SURE IT’S PLUGGED IN. Good grief. I am just glad that I don’t have one of those Jetsons phones or she would have seen the eye rolling I was doing while listening to her instruction (I also may have done a jerking off motion as well).

Upon following her umpteenth request, we determined that I would need a technician to come out and inspect my internet connection. Swell. I wonder how soon I could be graced with such a wonderful person to come and make the technology work that makes everything come alive at my fingertips, let alone the source of my joy via music which streams through my Roku box. As I held my breath, mind hopeful, the lovely representative asked if I would be available on Tuesday morning…two whole days away. Well, I suppose I should be glad that it was within this Century. So, now I have a four hour window in which I hope to have a technician arrive and magically fix my internet. What other type of profession has the four hour window for appointments? At least I have the first one of the day, so hopefully they won’t be too backed up and will be able to get to me before I go mad, er, madder than I am already.

Last time this happened, back in January, I went through the same steps and they did a force reset on their side, making the light glow a bright and beautiful green, which was short lived and intermittent. However, upon awaking the next morning…ABRACADABRA it was fixed, as if by magic. So, I am hoping that will happen this time as well.

It is interesting to examine the feelings I had at the time when I realized that I was without my source of connection to the outside World. The house seemed to be too quiet, there seemed to be an almost crushing feeling in my chest and I felt close to weeping. For what…not having internet? It’s not like I was given a terminal diagnosis, received news that a family member was missing, or that I was fired...but rather I had to go without internet for a couple of days. And with a laptop, I am able to obtain access at my local library, so I am not completely without a connection to the vast wealth of knowledge (both useful and useless).

But, the grief and sense of loss I felt at that time made me ponder. Yes, I am writing a blog entry, which will be posted (one way or another) online, but it did make me wonder; are we, as a society, addicted to the internet? Sure, there is a plethora of knowledge at our fingertips, but have we lost the ability to think for ourselves, find entertainment in offline things? The current generation is bombarded with all sorts of things to keep them occupied, from handheld video game systems to DVD players that are installed in vehicles. What happened to the old times of playing outside, climbing trees, digging in dirt and even rousing card games such as Go Fish, Old Maid and who can forget…I Spy with my Little Eye?!?! Games which required us to use our imagination, a sense of adventure, a way for us to learn more about each other by, gasp…talking.

While I do appreciate the wonderfulness that is the internet, as it has assisted me greatly as I pursued my college coursework and has facilitated in conversing with a wide assortment of individuals, I still wonder if we rely too heavily on technology. Would we all benefit in unplugging on occasion? If the mere thought of doing such causes tightness in your chest and your mind to race, perhaps it would be worth a try.

I am not advocating a total disconnection, but rather a trial vacation of sorts. A couple months ago, I decided to cancel my subscription to satellite television. Yes, I am one of “those” people now, and frankly, I don’t miss it. Sure, at first, I did experience a little bit of a shock, and while I am not completely without some of my favorites (NCIS, Criminal Minds, and The Daily Show to name a few) thanks to Hulu Plus and streaming online, I am glad that I made the choice.

Don’t get me wrong, technology is a wonderful thing, as I was able to be comforted by the sounds of TOOL and Mazzy Star as their wonderful melodies emitted from an iPod docking station, while typing on my laptop and texting a charming person (thank you bunches and bunches love…I adore you), it may be nice to make a conscious effort to unplug and recharge. Now, let’s hope the internet service is repaired soon!

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Belly of A Dog

You can spend much time with someone, thinking you know them, when in reality; they are just letting you see what they choose to present. 


We all have different personas, and we are the ones who decide which one we will let shine. This is not deception, but rather preservation.


Very few people know my different sides, as it is a vulnerability that I do not like to expose; sort of like the belly of a dog...it takes trust to know that you aren't going to hurt me, to expose such a spot. 


As in the animal kingdom, there are wide variations within the population regarding the trust levels of individuals. Some will just roll over for anyone, letting their belly to be exposed and rubbed by strangers. Then there are others that it takes eons to gain the trust just to pet.


But, once that trust is gained, both parties benefit greatly.

Monday, April 9, 2012

What's Wrong?


Happiness and glee start to fade away; what’s wrong?

Numbness washes over; what’s wrong?

Unable to feel neither pleasure nor pain; what’s wrong?

Tears well up, crashing over the brink; what’s wrong?

Mind is racing, the numbness gone; what’s wrong?

A thousand yard stare, yet nothing is clear; what’s wrong?

Ceiling is coming closer, floor drifts away; what’s wrong?

Feeling of slowly dying inside; what’s wrong?

Sorrow and fear give way to smiling and laughing; what’s wrong?

Thoughts swirling, not making sense; what’s wrong?

Time going in fast-forward, yet mind is stuck in time; what’s wrong?

Night is falling and another day is gone; what’s wrong?

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Is That A Chip in Your Brain?


I figured I would share another glimpse into how my mind works. During my last quarter, prior to completing my BS degree, I elected to take an Intro to Writing Fiction course (darn Liberal Arts…who knew psychologists had to be so well rounded?), which scared the living daylights out of me, as I do not consider myself to be creative nor did I make it a habit of reading fiction. For pleasure reading, I would opt for books written by psychologists or neuroscientist…yes, for fun.
In this course, we had to read short stories, analyze what the author was trying to convey, and then eventually write one of our own. I have never been one to read a sentence, “The sky was blue,” and read a whole lot into it, other than just that…The. Sky. Was. Blue. I blame my analytical mind, which had led me to a near panic attack (see previous blog post regarding how fun those can be to experience) whilst in a paint-your-own-pottery place. I completely froze, rows of blank pottery seemingly mocking me.


But, I digress. The story below is what came to fruition when we were given a task of writing a short fiction story on any topic we wanted. What did I choose? The thing I am most intrigued with and am constantly in pursuit of studying in some way. I had been mulling over this idea for years, so I was glad that I was finally able to put it into writing and share it with others. Oh yeah, we had to do peer review as well…that was interesting. Anyways, without further ado…

Secrets Within
            The snowflakes, with their pure white appearance, fell steadily on the streets of Baltimore.  The contrast against the darkness of a nearly moonless night made their brightness even more pronounced.  The windshield wipers were of no use against the quickly accumulating snow, which was at times became blinding with the headlights of oncoming vehicles.  The newly fallen snow had given the city the allure of pristine conditions, of which Eleanor knew better than to believe.

            As the Chief Medical Examiner for Baltimore, Eleanor was privy to the dark side of human nature; what the “civilized” are capable of doing to one another.  The reports on the evening news, with their light montage of music accompanying the events of the day, do not come close to the reality found in the cooler of the medical examiner’s building.  The six story mammoth structure that houses the medical examiner’s office also contains the 134th police precinct as well as a small court house.  Keeping with tradition, the medical examiner’s office and morgue is relegated to the basement.  She found it ironic that the same place you can report a crime, you can also apply for a marriage license and may be your temporary resting place enroute to the cemetery.

            Years ago, Eleanor considered not accepting the position with the City of Baltimore based on the fact that the building was located on Roosevelt Street.  She even joked about the coincidence of the names when she interviewed for the position while still completing her internship with the coroner’s office.  As she pulled into the parking spot identified with a bright green placard which indicated “Reserved for Medical Examiner,” Eleanor smiled and the hesitation that she had felt all those years ago were distant memories, faded and nearly invisible.  As Eleanor readied herself to get out of her car, a 2011 deep blue Volkswagen Touareg, one of the few luxuries she treated herself to, she gathered up her shoulder-length brown hair into a pony tail, a few new grays popping up near her temples.  Besides, it was 3:00 A.M. and only the dead were waiting her arrival, and it’s not like they would complain or notice.

            The warmth she had enjoyed provided by her heated seats was quickly replaced by the frigid wind that was whipping up the snow into a hurricane-like frenzy.  One would think that the city of Baltimore would invest in a parking structure, at least for their employees, since it was known for its harsh winters.  The snow crunched under Eleanor’s snow boots, which completed her early morning ensemble.  If one would have told her years ago that she would leave the house on a regular basis in black snow boots, jeans, and her unruly curls, haphazardly contained by a pony tail, without a stitch of makeup, she would not have believed it.  But this was her life and there was little she would change.

            The basement entrance to the medical examiner’s wing, marked with a red neon “Authorized Personnel Only” sign, served as a beacon in the flurry of snowflakes.  One swipe of her security badge and she was inside, welcomed by the warmth.  The dim lighting and empty corridors with their walls painted a muted green were reminiscent of a horror movie, yet they provided a sense of comfort to Eleanor.  The entire basement was void of people; at least those with a heartbeat anyway.  The quietness and stillness always helped to clear away the mental cobwebs that just prove to be a hindrance to the task at hand. 

            The Body Collection Point Recovery Team had been busy these past couple of hours, as the queue contained six new case numbers.  In the stainless steel cooler, the first body of the day awaited.  A youthful looking, clean shaven young Caucasian male, who still looked full of life and vigor, except for the multitude of bullet wounds to his chest; another young life cut down way too soon.  There is no question as to the cause of death, but the information that can be gleaned from a body can speak volumes.  This is the reason Eleanor became a medical examiner, while most of her classmates chose more lucrative and alluring careers, such as oncology or pediatric specialties. 

            Fresh scrubs donned, the treasure hunt process begins; seeking out the secrets that lay silently before Eleanor.  There doesn’t appear to be anything too remarkable about the body, but as in life, there is more than meets the eye.  Pulling out the skill saw and lowering the clear facial mask, the internal examination began.  While some may prefer to start with the familiar Y-incision, which consists of using a scalpel to cut lines from each clavicle to the chest where they meet and continue together to the pelvic bone, her starting point was usually the brain.  The brain is the hub of all that happens inside the body, and that is where the secrets are stored.

            The sound of the skill saw filled the tiled autopsy suite, its high-pitched squeal bounced off the ceramic enclosure.  Upon making the C-incision and peeling back the scalp to expose the grey gelatinous mass that is the brain, there doesn’t appear to be any significant abnormalities; no lesions, no evidence of blunt force trauma, and no swelling.  Eleanor switched out the skill saw for a scalpel and starts to separate the sections of the brain.  Like peeling the leaves of an artichoke, the brain is an intricate pattern of overlaying and interlacing components, each with their own special purpose.

            As the twisting matter was separated, Eleanor noticed something that doesn’t belong, something completely foreign not just to the brain, but to the body as a whole.  There appeared to be a small mass, about the size of a thumb nail, which was connected to both the optic nerves and auditory nerves, like a spider’s web with an unusual looking prey caught in the spindles.  Alarmed at this finding, Eleanor glanced at the clock on the wall which now displayed 7:35 A.M., and pressed the intercom button located on the wall behind her, which connected her to Craig, the assistant medical examiner. 

            “Craig, its Eleanor, can you come here for a minute?” She said, masking the twinge of urgency in her voice.  “I have something I would like you to take a look at.”

            “Sure, be right there.”

            Within less than a minute, her assistant Craig was in the autopsy suite.  He was quite tall and thin, gangly really, with the pallor that would make the snow outside look tan.  They started working together about two years ago.  He reminded Eleanor of herself when she started all those years ago, eager and ready to dig right in.

            “Do you see this small black mass, here in the brain?”  Eleanor indicated the unknown object with the once shiny but now blood splattered scalpel.  “Have you ever seen anything like it?”

            “Hmmmm, I don’t seem to recall seeing anything like that in the past.  Can I see that scalpel?”

            Eleanor watched as Craig used the scalpel to gently separate the small unknown black mass from the surrounding brain tissue.  As the object was freed from the intertwining nerves and tissue, its shape became more identifiable.

            “Is that what I think it is?” whispered Eleanor.

            “That all depends on what you think it is.  It appears to be a combination of plastic and metal.  I will know more when we clean it off.”

            They cleaned the foreign object with the care and gentleness one would use when bathing a newborn baby.  Holding the small object between the tines of gleaming forceps, Eleanor shifted her gaze from Craig to the body of the young man from which this object was removed, back to the small piece newly cleaned in front of her. 

            “This looks like a universal serial bus drive Craig.  But what would it be doing in this young man’s brain, connected to his optic and auditory nerves?  It doesn’t make any sense.  We have found numerous foreign objects in the bodies here, from drug mules with balloons of heroin burst inside their intestines, to over $10 in pennies in the stomach of that old woman last year.  Finding something foreign embedded in the brain, complete with neural attachment, well, that’s a first for me.”

            “Well, if it is a USB drive, we could try to see if there is something on it.”

            “If that is the plan, we need to document the whole process.  Can you set up the video and audio over here?”

            “Consider it done.”

            “Well, let’s not get ahead of ourselves, Craig.  There could be a logical explanation that we haven’t realized yet.”

            As Craig set up the video recorder and angled the ceiling mounted microphone, Eleanor brought the laptop over to the center staging table in the autopsy suite.  She could feel her pulse quicken while beads of sweat collected on her forehead and upper lip.  Her hands had started to quiver in anticipation of the potential discovery.  She powered up the laptop, directly in line with the video recorder, as Craig brought the USB drive-type device over to the table.

            “Ready, Eleanor?” Craig said, holding the device in the palm of his hand.

            “Are we rolling?”

            “Locked and loaded.”

            “Ok, let’s do this.”

            Craig handed the device over to Eleanor, who inserted it into the port on the laptop.  Audible gasps bounced off the ceramic walls of the autopsy suite as the computer registered the USB drive.  A file was located on the drive titled, “Subject 173264: Meyers, Jacob.”  Eleanor navigated the laptop’s mouse to open the file.  A video file with a date stamp of the day before was the only thing located in the main file.

            “Well, that is certainly odd.  Why would the only thing on this USB drive be date stamped yesterday?  There doesn’t appear to be any file backup, modification or creation dates either.”  Eleanor said.

            “I don’t think that odd even begins to describe the present situation.”

            They both stood speechless as the video played on the laptop screen.  The picture seemed to be in a first-person point of view, as they go about their daily business, casually taking in their surroundings.  It is early evening, the snow level not nearly as high as it is presently.  The sound of the snow and ice crunching underfoot was captured on the video recording, adding an all too realistic touch to the picture on the screen.  The back and forth movement on the screen as the subject walked down the sidewalk began to make Eleanor a little queasy.  Suddenly, a white, mid-size, late model car filled the view of the screen, the sound of tires squealing echoed in the autopsy suite.  The sound of a multitude of gunshots emanating from the speakers of the laptop caused both Eleanor and Craig to jump.  Rooftops and the horizon of the winter sky fill the screen, as the sound of gurgling and sputtering filled the room.  The video turned blurry, as if Vaseline had been smeared on the lens of a camera, everything in soft focus.

            Eleanor and Craig turned to each other, both in disbelief of what they just witnessed before them, mouths agape.  Suddenly, the doors to the medical examiner’s suite bust open, jarring Eleanor and Craig from their transfixed amazement.  Several men in black SWAT-type uniforms, weapons drawn forced their way into the enclosure. 

            “Show me your hands!” bellowed a voice from the intruders.

            “Mmmay I help you?” Eleanor’s voice quivered.

            “Hands!  Now!”

            “Sure, anything.  Can someone tell me what is going on here?  Who are you?”

            “That is none of your concern lady.  We know you found the chip.  Hand it over and we will forget any of this happened.”

            “I am not handing over anything to someone who just barged into MY office.  I don’t know who you are, but that is not how I run things.”

            “Lady, I will not repeat myself again.  It would be in your best interest to hand it over right this second.”

            “And what if I don’t?”

            With that quick question, Eleanor and Craig quickly found out the answer.  Before they could call out for assistance, the intruders let loose a hail of gunfire, the sound deafening in the small tiled enclosure.  Eleanor and Craig collapsed to the concrete floor, their vision turned blurry, just as they had seen on the laptop display.

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Let's Not Panic


Aah, the familiar feeling that your heart is going to burst right through your chest, the tightness of your trachea feels like you are wearing a turtleneck that is 10 sizes too small, sweat beading up on your brow and all you can hear is a mix of static and a high-pitched squeal…a lovely panic attack. If you have ever had the pleasure of having one in public, the symptoms are amplified tremendously as part of the spiral of maintaining a “normal” outward appearance just intensifies the experience. Worrying that you won’t be able to calm down, that you are going to draw attention to yourself, that you are going to start crying uncontrollably, along with some irrational fears thrown in for good measure to mind-fuck yourself. 


This is the best way I have been able to describe a panic attack, which in writing this, I can feel the changes occur in my body, although I am not experiencing an episode presently, it usually lays dormant, just below the surface, ready to surprise me like a demonic jack-in-the-box.


I have experienced panic attacks for a couple of years. Thankfully, most of the time I am able to control them if I am in public, either through medication or excusing myself for a bit of quiet and isolation. On occasion, they do escalate in places which I cannot effectively escape, such as airports, social event and even family gatherings. When this happens, I feel a sense of numbness wash over me as I try my hardest to maintain an outward appearance of “normal” while inside I am battling like mad, similar to the duck who looks calm and serene on the surface, but just below they are kicking like crazy.


I experienced one the other day, gratefully while I was home. I do not deal with stress very well (even though I took a Stress Management course as an elective for my degree) and have even experienced a panic attack while meditating, but I digress. This most recent one was brought on by my current employment situation, which is of the unemployed variety. I thought I was handling my stress just fine, but I suppose I was mistaken.


I was let go about a month ago from where I was working as a Residential Counselor at a group home for developmentally delayed, physically and verbally aggressive adolescent sex offenders. Not my ideal clientele, but it was a job and in the mental health field. I was the only female staff there, as the others had been removed and placed in different group homes due to some of the client’s behaviors. Placing the clients, who ranged in age from 11-15, in physical restraints was a daily occurrence, which was one reason I had to wear shin guards to work, as they would kick, hit, bite, spit, claw, vomit and call you just about every name you can imagine. The behavior that caused the removal of the other female staff was the tendency for the clients to hump the legs of a female whilst in restraints, at times until “completion.” My employer thought that since I had a military background and a degree in psychology, I would be able to handle working there. They thought wrong, as my inability to remove a child from a tree, whilst he was calling me, “Stupid Bitch, Dirty Cunt, and Filthy Whore,” and throwing sticks in my general direction, proved to be too much for me to handle. 
Daily verbal and physical assaults for barely over minimum wage…make me question the priorities of the workforce.



So, now I am job searching, interviewing, budgeting, and doing all those other responsible “adult” things. I know something will come along, but the stress is sometimes overwhelming, especially when you push it down, into the deep, dark recesses in hopes of forgetting. But lo, our minds have a funny way of reminding us that we are not robots, but rather human beings with thoughts, emotions, and even fears. 

Monday, April 2, 2012

It's Official...


So, I guess I am blogging now. Well, I guess it had to happen eventually. When contemplating what I was going to write about, who the heck would read my inner ramblings (which frankly I wish I could escape myself), and how much I would share, I quickly found myself scared out of my mind. My thoughts are often racing and scattered, warped, not always the happiest and quite often odd. Perhaps that is exactly why I should share them with others, as it may assist in developing a sense of unity for those who find themselves amongst the Land of Misfit Toys.

When I posited the question about blogging to some, they gave me tips and pointers about what would constitute a “successful” blog, mainly writing about children and food…well, that kind of sucks since I have a general dislike for kids and my food tastes are not exactly the typical “American” fare. Good thing I am not looking to be a successful blogger then, as if that was my goal, I would certainly fail.



I had never thought of my ideas as unique or odd, until I started to share them with others. These instances do not occur that often, as I often keep a distance from people and find myself preferring the company of animals to most humans. During those rare times where I do share more than just what comprises the surface of my being, most often the response is something along the lines of, “Wow, I have never met someone like you.” Well, I am not quite sure how to interpret that, as I have never met a purple Leprechaun who was riding a unicorn, nor a serial killer either (or at least not that I know of). 



I often think of myself as hummus. Yes, hummus. I know what you are probably thinking right now… “What is she babbling about now? How can someone be like a Middle East chickpea dip?” No, I’m not a mind reader, just familiar with the reaction (or am I???). Well, I happen to be a huge fan of hummus…all kinds, garlic, roasted pepper, olive, traditional, and spicy as well. But, as I have observed, hummus is not for everyone and some may like certain aspects or flavors. In that way, I am like hummus…not for everyone, sometimes a taste that takes time to develop in order to appreciate or others just like right from the start.



So, there’s my little introduction as to a brief look at who I am and why I am here…read at your own discretion. I am not sure exactly how this will evolve, but I intend to write on a regular basis, slowly revealing a bit more as time passes. I will also post some recipes…for that demographic I suppose. Feel free to ask any questions…

Thanks again for reading.